Does that phrase really work? Perhaps for the moment, but in the long-run, it does nothing to build a respectful relationship with your child. That’s my opinion.
Incorporating a little etiquette in your home can make a huge difference. I’m not referring to setting the table with all of the bells, whistles, and charger plates; well at least not every night. My prescription for a curt-free home is gratis. It’s also practical and easy to implement. If you decide to try any of the hot tips below, I’d love to hear from you and about the charming results.
Caution is advised. Your jaw may drop, you may tear-up, or you may not recognize your loved ones! Just kidding folks. Moreover, you may expect a little resistance, dismissal, and inquiries. Or maybe, everyone will just jump on the etiquette bandwagon without a hitch.
13 Hot Tips on How to Implement Etiquette Into Your Family’s Daily Routine:
- Greet each member of the family: in the morning and upon their return from work/school. Pause the television for a moment. Look up from your computer.
- When someone sneezes, say, “Bless you.”, “Gesundheit.”, or any other form of acknowledgement.
- Instead of a command, make it a request. Include the word, “please” when you ask them to turn off the light.
- Knock when a door is closed, and wait for a reply.
- Make an effort to sit together at the table for dinner. Whether it’s to enjoy a gourmet meal or a vat of Popeye’s Chicken, make it an experience.
- If you’re angry, give yourself a time-out; then deal with the situation. Yelling gets you nowhere.
- Listen. If it isn’t convenient at the moment, be sure to make time later that day.
- Play. Demonstrate interest in what other family members enjoy.
- Remember, it isn’t the end of the world if the toilet seat is up.
- Have a "no-tech devices" moment every day. (this includes grown-ups)
- If you must gossip, don't do it in front of your children. Monkey-see...
- No one enjoys being corrected in public...niether do children.
- Comparisons are hurtful, harmful, humiliating, and irrelevant.
Etiquette approach: Etiquette isn’t only about finger bowls, shaking hands, and knowing where you name tag goes; it is more fundamental. It is making your home comfortable, anchored, connected, and welcome. It is a place of learning, forgiveness, and respect. If you’re angry, take a moment to handle it. Don’t lash out at the first person who walks in the door. Find a way to lasso your anger and bring it down to a state of annoyance.
___________Etiquette is an attitude.
Rosalinda Randall is an Etiquette Consultant and Owner of Your Relationship Edge. She has been spreading civility and presenting workshops throughout the San Francisco Bay Area and beyond for over fourteen years. She is available to speak at your next event, staff development, career day, or community organization. Her workshops are great for admins, sales team, attorneys, new hires, university/college grads, high school students, and athletes. Private consultations to upgrade your professional presence are also available. 650.871.6200