Getting Through Your Graduation Ceremony With Dignity

Has the time-honored graduation ceremony lost its dignity?

I've attended a few graduations that seemed more like sporting events.  The whistling, whoo-hoo's, soccer game noisemakers, and sideline cheers as their darling graduate's name is called.  The problem is that it goes on and on; so much that the next little darling graduate's name is only a faint whisper.  

Family and friends' enthusiasm is sweet and understandable, but, please refrain.  Or, at least cease your effervescent jubilation in time so that the graduate that follows can hear their name called and allow their family to enjoy the moment.  It is a matter of respect for all graduates.

And when a principal pleads that the audience refrain from applause for each graduate, please follow directions.  Applauding for each grad only extends the ceremony; it also drowns out the names being called. 

To bring back a little dignity to the occasion, here are a few tips for the graduates: 

Gowns:  Wear something appropriate underneath.  Putting a little effort in your attire is respectful; if not for yourself, do it for your family and teachers.

No Gowns:  See above.

Shoes:  We can see them whether you wear a gown or not.  A note for girls: before you walk on stage with your new 7" heels, practice at home so that you don't look like your are just about to fall over.

On Stage:  Just remember, we can see you.

• Sit up straight, even if you're tired or bored; everyone is there to honor you.
• Ladies without gowns: keep your knees together.
• Put away cell phones, or at least turn them off.
• Don't hold private conversations that go on and on.

The Diploma:

• Accept your diploma with your left hand.  You will be shaking hands with your right hand (underneath the diploma)
• Look, smile and say "Thank you", to the person handing you the diploma.
• Pause and look toward the audience for a photo-op.

Dear Graduate:  Consider honoring yourself, your teachers, and your family by bringing civility, style, and dignity to the ceremony.  After all, the ceremony is to honor you and your accomplishments; whether many or one–you did it–you earned it! 

As you embark on a new experience, take with you the lessons learned, the pleasant and unpleasant ones.  They will guide you through the difficult situations you will inevitably encounter.  Enjoy your journey.   Always take a moment to listen to your ‘gut’ before you make a decision. 

My best wishes to you.  May your celebrations be super fun and super safe!  Congratulations. 

Rosalinda Oropeza Randall is an etiquette consultant who owns Your Relationship Edge in which she teaches classes and presents workshops to a variety of audiences. She can be reached at rosalinda@yourrelationshipedge.com and her website is www.yourrelationshipedge.com. She can also be reached on Facebook.