The Flight With the Bawling Bambino

I acknowledge that from the Bay Area to San Diego is not as challenging as traveling across the country or to the other side of the world. However, the challenge of keeping the adults around you from sighing, shooting unforgiving looks, or offering unsolicited comments is just as stressful.

When I used to fly with our two sons to and from San Diego, I envisioned being the voice in support of all parents who traveled with children, standing up to remind every frustrated adult with a my-kid-wouldn't-act-like-that-attitude that they too were annoying to others at some point in their life. But that wouldn't be polite.

With that said, I must also cast aspersions at the few parents who allow their children to freely "express themselves"—behaving as though they were in their own home, kicking the seat in front of them, speaking loudly, crying without any solace, or demanding special treats. 

You know your child best. 

So, if your child really needs their nap, make adjustments in their schedule; schedule a flight at a more convenient time.

If your child is spirited, easily bored, or energetic, plan for it. Purchase a few special trinkets, snacks, or engaging books to present to your child at that critical turning point. 

Naturally, these tricks may not always work; that is when the parent must maintain a calm and soothing demeanor for the sake of the child. If you become flustered, your child will take your cue and double it!  A simple and genuine apology to those around you is sufficient.

To folks not traveling with bambinos: carry ear plugs or head sets. Save your disapproving looks; it won't change the situation. Depending on the child's age, try smiling or engaging them in conversation.  Never offer a child a treat without asking the parent first.  

Remember, it isn't the child's fault; they are learning how to be in the world from the adults around them.

"The hardest job kids have today is learning manners without seeing any." —Fred Astaire